Our African-Nigerian society has failed most of our women out there. A society that birthed you, cradled you, nursed you, loved you as a girl at your tender age then downgrade, neglect you as a fully grown young woman. It then tames you, breaks you down, renders you powerless, if not reckless. It then assures you it is OK to live that way, to be like that, to be broken, after all you’re only a woman. You really don’t need much to be happy, you just need to be married, bring forth children, train them to become useful citizens and allow your life to function around that little sphere. Much is not expected of you. Although you were made, meant to change the world you live in. Continue reading The dilemma of finding spousal support in career and business for African women
It is unlawful to harass a person be it an applicant or employee because of that person’s sexuality. According to the U.S. Equal Employment Opportunity Commission. Harassment includes sexual harassment, or unwelcome sexual advances, requests for sexual favors and other verbal or physical harassment of a sexual nature. It can also include offensive remarks about a person’s sex.
Harassment is illegal not just for the victims but for others who witness it because it creates a hostile environment. Though both genders can be harassed, women are more affected because they are seen as the vulnerable ones. If any harassment occurs, the victim has 180 days to file a charge and federal employees have 45 days to contact an Equal Employment Opportunity to report the case. Continue reading SEXUAL HARASSMENT AT THE WORK PLACE IN NIGERIA BY SANMI AKOMOLAFE
Sexual harassment is an unwelcome sexual advances by a male superior towards a female employee, creating an intimidating work environment. Sexual harassment can be written, verbal or physical conduct. A single event is enough to establish sexual harassment; it doesn’t have to be repeated.
A research carried out by pulse tv in Nigeria indicated that 63% of the respondents have been sexually harassed in their workplace, 9.8% filed a complaint to the HR Department of their organizations.
Do we have to tolerate sexual harassment as a requirement in exchange for employment, promotion, movie role or any kind of job benefit?
What policy are organizations putting in place to combat sexual harassment of women?
When will our government implement a civil right acts prohibiting sexual harassment of women?
What are you as a woman doing to combat this act?
Must this continue like this?
Do we keep watching these egocentric male supervisors threaten their female employees?
How do we protect ourselves against this terrible act?
We need to join the awareness movement and raise our voices. We need to expose the offenders. We want an environment conducive for women to work. We want to get that promotion without been harassed, we want to get that movie role without been asked for sex.
We want a labor act that prohibits sexual harassment during employment and at workplace.
As today’s women, we say NO to sexual harassment in the workplace.
We will continue to raise our voice.
We are the movement! Be the Movement!!
Abimbola Kolapo is a federal civil worker in Nigeria. She is the founder and creator of Touching lives for Human Development Initiative. She is also a leadership mentor for school students under the initiative The Future Leader. She is very passionate about helping the less privileged and inspiring the coming generation.
Sexual harassment is a violation of human rights. It is a manifestation of power relations and women are much more likely to be victims of sexual harassment precisely because they more often than men lack power, and are in more vulnerable and insecure positions, Some men resented female employees and perceived them as a threat in traditionally male dominated work environments. Sexual harassment is often carried out with the motive to cause embarrassment and humiliation to women. It stems from chauvinism, sense of entitlement to the body of females.
Some women don’t even know they have been sexually harassed.
What is sexual harassment? Continue reading Sexual harassment at the work place in Nigeria written by Bukola Afolabi Ogunyeye
Harassment is bullying or coercion of a sexual nature, or the unwelcome or inappropriate promise of rewards in exchange for sexual favours.
In most modern legal contexts, sexual harassment is illegal, It is unlawful to harass a person (an applicant or employee) because of that person’s sex.
Harassment can include “sexual harassment” or unwelcome sexual advances, requests for sexual favours, and other verbal or physical harassment of a sexual nature. Continue reading Sexual harassment at the work place in Nigeria
According to the Merriam Webster dictionary sexual harassment can be defined as the “uninvited and unwelcome verbal or physical behavior of a sexual nature especially by a person in authority toward a subordinate (such as an employee or student)”.
Sexual harassment is an act that has eaten so deep into the work place territory in Nigeria. Our culture and tradition which seeks to objectify women has even made it more rampant, and women are expected to bear this humiliating act in the work place in order to protect their careers. They are often advised that if they want to climb to the pinnacle of their career then they must hush up and keep bearing every form of sexual harassment they encounter along the way.
Any attempt to make a report, the woman would be seen as arrogant and pompous.
She would be seen as a proud woman who wants to dominate a work force that is often times being dominated by men. Continue reading Sexual Harassment at the work place in Nigeria
“I have observed something else under the sun. The fastest runner doesn’t always win the race, and the strongest warrior doesn’t always win the battle. The wise sometimes go hungry, and the skillful are not necessarily wealthy. And those who are educated don’t always lead successful lives. It is all decided by chance, by being in the right place at the right time. Ecclesiastes 9:11 NLT”
This was the thought and scripture that was running round and round in my head after I published my two books “From the perspective of the child” and “Life on the Street of Readlooks” in December 2017. As a matter of fact that scripture had been running through my head prior to then. I had over worked myself, I felt weak, I felt depleted, the race was a fierce one. I sat down and had an introspection…. I was running on a roller coaster, I had lots of sleepless night devoted to my books. I had a target and it had to be met. I had a lot of personal responsibilities also and everything was taking its toll on me and it wasn’t healthy for me.
I had also taken in a lot of toxicity from the social media, I was brimming with so much contained negative energy that I masked successfully. I sat down and made a decision, I was getting off the social media throughout January.
I didn’t care that I needed to stay on and promote my two new books,
I didn’t care that the book might not be discovered if I decide to take the bait of “time alone” that was calling.
I didn’t care about anything aside myself!
The realization of this gave me an “aha” moment and I realized that self-love, self-care was what I needed to do consistently as an individual in order to continue to be an inspiration and a blessing to my world. That was one of the best decision I made in my life!
I had thought it was supposed to be a break where I won’t have to deal with any mental stress and all that, and so it was until I was taken on another journey of self discovery on a deeper level.
My eyes suddenly became opened to a lot of opportunities around me and I began to re-brand myself.
I received so much inspiration and revelations that I became full to the brim.
My brain was working so fast, I was happier despite the fact that I lost a lot of sleep, I was able to invest valuable time in my writings and develop a better strategy for my social media usage.
As a matter of fact I kept postponing my social media resumption till now. I realized that an unrestrained usage of the social media space is a huge trap even if you are growing a brand.
I realized that the best way to enjoy the social media is to have a strong level of control over it.
I would be writing more on mental wellness as time goes on, and how to guard your mental health from anything that can kill your creativity.
I have a lot of tips, and my time off the social media opened my eyes to a lot of issues.
Till then, I would love to introduce my new book to you. It is an eBook, and I am launching it today on my eBook store. As you can see it up there, it is available for free download. It is about my experience with a violent relationship I was in about ten years ago and the near death experiences I had on several occasions in the relationship.
The deep blue sea is a must have for everyone, most especially ladies and women. There are lots of lessons in there, it is gripping, infuriating and would keep you at the edge of your seat, download your copy and tell your friends to download theirs too.
Finally, I am also creating a platform whereby authors could self-publish their books easily without the stress of publishing and publishers in Nigeria.
Our eBook files on Hadar Creations Publishing is encrypted and your files would be protected against piracy. That was one of the features we watched out for before we purchased our eBook store. I believe every individual has a book in them and Hadar Creations is ready to help put that story out to the world.
Please support my dream and vision by helping to spread the word. I would also greatly appreciate your review on this book on the product page , and I would be very grateful if you tell your friends to get their own copy and also drop their own reviews too.
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My idea of a strong woman is encompassing. I believe every woman is strong in one way or the other even if her circumstances, choices or the situation surrounding her is unappealing to other women. And this is why I love Annie idibia, that woman is so strong.
She embodies a kind of strength that I admire. A lot of people have condemned her choice of getting married to Tu Baba, but she does not give a damn, at least going by the way she is living her life and carrying herself, I really admire her. We have a lot of people that seek to plant negativity and toxicity in other people’s lives. People like this just have this uncanny urge to douse people’s happiness or find a way to hurt people in the face of their celebration. The only way to deal with people like that is to tell them to shove it, stand tall and keep living your life on your own terms.
There is a difference between motherhood and mothering.
Motherhood can be defined as the state of being a mother and having the ‘qualities’ of a mother. Mothering, on the other hand, can be defined as the nurturing and raising of a child by a mother – in the way she desires, that suits her and her child.
Mothering is not defined by any quality, or whatever set standard; the woman defines that standard for herself and her child in a healthy way that she deems fit. Motherhood is patriarchal, while mothering is liberating. Motherhood can be burdensome, while mothering can be easier, eye opening and enjoyable.
My experience with motherhood was when I was pregnant with my second child; my son was not yet 2 years old and had to keep going to school. My husband said, Jumoke let this guy stay at home. I am not always around due to work related issues, please save yourself the stress of going that far with a pregnancy and pushing a buggy all about the place. Continue reading Motherhood and Mothering
Adeola sat on the couch, drifting in and out of sleep, trying to stay awake in order to hear Jade when she wakes up. It’s been a hectic day for Adeola, she is on maternity leave for three months and she has not found it easy. The only time she rested was the first three days when she just delivered at the hospital. Ever since she got home, it has been from one work to another. Her mother in law was around for about a month to help nurse the baby. In all fairness to mama she did an awesome job of caring for the baby, which Adeola greatly appreciated. But no one took care of her, she still had to cook, wash, sweep and all…… Continue reading The Culture of Mother Blaming