Adeola sat on the couch, drifting in and out of sleep, trying to stay awake in order to hear Jade when she wakes up. It’s been a hectic day for Adeola, she is on maternity leave for three months and she has not found it easy. The only time she rested was the first three days when she just delivered at the hospital. Ever since she got home, it has been from one work to another. Her mother in law was around for about a month to help nurse the baby. In all fairness to mama she did an awesome job of caring for the baby, which Adeola greatly appreciated. But no one took care of her, she still had to cook, wash, sweep and all…… Continue reading The Culture of Mother Blaming
Over the years, I have seen vicious battles of custody amongst estranged Nigerian couples and my heart bleeds. I hear how some men go to schools to warn teachers not to allow his kids mother to come near “his kids” and I marvel.
The other time I read somewhere where a teacher shared how the kids father whom they had only seen a few times in all the times those kids have been schooling there, came to the school, discovered the wife had come to pick the kids and went back to bring a battalion of mobile police men to block the school gate, he threatened no one would enter to pick their kids just because his wife escaped from the dungeon he kept her for days, the woman was a corporate executive where she worked, she was reduced to an unkempt woman who quickly escaped to pick up her kids at the first chance she had. Continue reading CHILD CUSTODY IS NOT A GAME!